Wedding planning to-do list for couples

Early on

• Agree on a budget and rough guest count.
• Pick a date range and the kind of day you want.
• Shortlist and visit venues.
• Start a savings goal for the big costs.

The middle months

• Book the big things: photographer, food, music.
• Send save-the-dates, then invitations with an RSVP date.
• Plan outfits, rings and any travel for guests.
• Keep a running list of questions for each vendor.

The last few weeks

• Chase missing RSVPs and confirm numbers.
• Confirm times with every vendor.
• Pack for the day, and for after.
• Leave space in the calendar for each other.

Keep it shared, and kind

Split it by interest, not by assignment: let each of you pick the parts you care about. Keep notes and decisions on each task, so nobody has to remember what the florist said.